Social Relationships Are A Non-virtual Reality

Why does social media play such a major role in relationships today? Well I think rapper Yo Gotti explained it best in his song, "Down in the DM" when he said, "Snapchat me that..."(well you know the rest). Social media provides easy access. Not only do we need to worry about infidelity in person and via text, phone calls, email, etc, but we now have the luxury of social applications that make sliding in someone's direct messages and intervening in their lives, more specifically their relationships, as simple as ever. You do not even have to leave your bed to flirt anymore. Don't get me wrong, social media is not a bad thing, and it does not always have a negative effect on relationships. Ironically, my boyfriend and I met on Facebook (after he "accidentally" poked me). However, there should be boundaries. Like with any aspect of a relationship, the topic of social media do's and don'ts and what each of you is comfortable with should be discussed in detail until you can come to a compromise. That way everyone knows what to expect. After that, it is up to each individual to respect their significant other's boundaries in order to make them feel secure and allow them to fully trust. Sometimes this may mean removing yourselves from certain social media apps altogether. Consider whatever it takes to work out a reasonable solution. I emphasize "reasonable" because some people's issues are beyond social media. Some people just have trust issues, and no matter what you do they will have a problem with it. For instance, if they keep track of the number of followers you have, go through each of your likes and friend all of the females, hack your social media account and unfriend each female (including family members) or anything along those lines, then there may be a bigger issue. In that case, you may want to get to the root of the issue and reevaluate your relationship from there. Ultimately, if you are with someone who you truly care about and who you want to spend the rest of your life with, this should be a minor speed bump, but never be a deal breaker. At the end of the day, your goal should be to have a healthy, loving relationship, and I would take that over Facebook any day.

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