What? A Man

It's been a long time since I've posted something for you guys. Needless to say, I experienced a few Lessons in Love during my hiatus. To make a long story short, I am now a mother and very single. It has been a long and heartbreaking process to go from a long-term relationship to being on my own (especially with a young daughter), but I am at the point where I am ready to date again. I have not actively pursued candidates, but I have dabbled in the dating pool once or twice within the past year. What I've realized during that time is that my idea of a "Good Man" has been slightly skewed. I used to think that I knew exactly what I wanted from a man, and any man that fell short of my expectations wasn't for me. There was no way I would settle. Now I'm beginning to question my standards and expectations. After some deep contemplation, I realize my doubt is caused by two factors: reality vs societal expectations. We live in a world where most of us were taught as young ladies not to settle for anything less than a handsome gentleman with a good job, his own car, his own house and hopefully religious beliefs (that was a bonus of course). In reality, the guys that embody that "Good Man" persona in today's society do exist, but they are usually disrespectful jerks who wouldn't know how to treat a woman if someone gave them a step-by-step manual (which do exist BTW). And the the actual good guys usually fall short of society's fabricated list of what a good man should be. Should you "settle" for this guy just because he treats you better than the jerk who has it all? Then there's the Average Joe who has a job, transportation, etc and treats you well, but does not have that physical appeal. Should you go for this guy just because of his potential even though the chemistry may not be there? It's hard to find a man who even has a decent job in this day and age. So should you pass him up just because he doesn't have a car or maybe you aren't physically attracted to him? Ultimately, no one is perfect, so don't write someone off completely. No man will have it all. It's up to you to decide what is truly important to have and sustain a successful relationship. In the end, there is someone for everyone so don't feel like you have to settle if you feel in your heart someone is not right for you. Determine your worth, and be with whoever makes you happy. 

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