Ask, and Shall You Receive?

For the longest women have been described as complicated, difficult, hard to please, etc. Honestly this can be true, but there is a simple solution for men...learn to cope. We've all heard the saying, "Ask and you shall receive." What happens when we apply this concept to relationships. Both men and women should take this quote to heart. MEN if you find yourself constantly guessing or confused about what your woman wants,  just ask her. Nine times out of ten she has thrown hints or revealed her desires in some direct or indirect way and you failed to catch the hint, but for clarity purposes you owe it to her to find out what makes her happy. WOMEN, don't assume that your man can read your mind. If he's just not catching the hints you're throwing, communicate with him exactly what you want when you want it. MEN just keep in mind that this may change often but don't get discouraged just go with the flow (trust me it's easier for everyone). The bottom line is that women have a lot that contributes to instability within their lives (harmones, daily tasks/struggles, etc), so it's normal for them to be moody and indecisive. A real man will do all he can to help her bare those daily burdens, make her life as care-free as possible, and do anything to put a smile on her face. It just takes a little effort and a lot of patience. And don't worry men, a real woman will recognize the effort you put into what matters to her and return that effort 1000%. 

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You Get What You [Think] You Deserve

So I recently had some random woman approach me and tell me that she was seeing this married man (true story). She went on to say she gets really jeaous when he doesn't reply to her text or contact her everyday. She also said she doesn't believe she was the only one he was stepping outside of his marriage with, and asked me what she should do. Honestly, at the time all I could tell her was that she needs to move on. Afterwards, i regret not letting her know the "real". As to not seem judgemental, I held back my initial thoughts that she was putting herself in a situation that made her look foolish, desperate, and like she has little self-worth and a lack of self-confidence. That is what it boils down to though. We must put ourselves in a position that displays how valuable and worthy we are to have someone who is ours (and only ours)  and who loves, values, and cherishes us for exactly who we are and what we have to offer. Vice versa, we should treat the person we have with the same respect. We must be an example for our sons and daughters on how to be treated/loved and how to treat/love others. We all make mistakes and have been in undesirable positions, but don't let those situations carry on when you know they are wrong. That speaks volumes about your character. Like the old adage goes, "If you knew better, you'd do better". So know your worth, and don't accept anyone who gives you less.

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Speaking Life into Your Woman

Hats off to this young man. He gets it. Speaking life into your partner and showing appreciation is so important. It promotes feelings of security, confidence, wantedness, and just plain love. However, people dwell on women speaking life into men, when we should also focus on men uplifting women. Women work, have and are the primary caregivers for our children, take care of the household, hold our men down, etc.,  and we deserve some affirmation for it all. Yes it is important to uplift our men, BUT don't forget to give it in return.

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Just Right

So we've all heard the story of Goldilocks and the three bears. Goldilocks pretty much breaks in to the bears’ home, eats their food, sits in their chairs, makes herself comfortable in their beds, and tears stuff up in the process. All of this is irrelevant, except for her selection process. She tries all three options (mother’s, father’s, and baby’s) in each category until she finds the one that is “just right” for her. This is a great example of how to approach your relationship. As a woman I am the first to say that we can be difficult, and it may be a little hard to figure out exactly what we want. As a REAL woman I will also say that you may never truly figure this out because what we want changes constantly. Not saying that we will always want something new or out of the norm, but we are emotional creatures and our wants/actions are tied to our emotions. For example, I am the least affectionate in my relationship (believe it or not), but sometimes I get an urge to be extremely affectionate. This may be a little confusing to my boyfriend because he now has to figure out when to be more or less affectionate with me. The key is to 1. Ask or 2. Learn to read your mate. Luckily, my boyfriend has learned me enough to recognize my moods, so he can judge his actions. It may also be helpful and a lot less difficult if we, as women, just tell our men what we want. Yes I know we expect them to figure it out the majority of the time, because that’s how it should be, right?...WRONG. We can sometimes get in the habit of having these high, sometimes unrealistic, expectations of men to test them and their love and commitment towards us. This just complicates things more, and some men are just not good at taking hints. Before we can test a man, let’s first make sure we give him the tools to pass. Now men, once we give you this study guide of expectations please try your hardest to accept it and retain it. Don’t do more than we expect (over-do it), less than we want (slack), and don’t stray away from our desires because you don’t agree with how we want to be treated. We need a good balance of actions, emotions, etc...not too much, not too little, but just right. The key to a successful relationship is to love people how they want to be loved, not how you want to love them. I know for a fact this can be difficult, but it's a small price if your goal is to be with that person and make them happy.Heart2Heart

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