Breaking Point

 Everyone makes mistakes, but just remember everyone, especially women, has a breaking point. "I'm sorry" can only go so far.....it gets old eventually and can't be used to excuse habitual behavior.

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If the person you love is dumb enough to let you go, move on to the one who's smart enough to catch you.

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To Trust or Not to Trust

Trust is an important aspect in any relationship, but what do you do when the one you love doesn't trust you back? We've all been in the position where we don't trust, or at least have some doubts about some of the actions of, our boyfriend/girlfriend. We've wondered if they are where they say they're gonna be or seen a text from someone of the opposite sex on their phone and wondered if it was something more than just a text....but what happens when the tables are turned? What if your partner is the one questioning you, and you know you have done nothing wrong, disrespectful, or inappropriate? (and I don't mean those cheaters who are in denial)
It's essential to have trust, but for some people it just takes time. If the love you feel for that person is real and strong, then you will wait for him/her...and if he or she feels that same level of love, then trusting you will come in no time, as long as you continue to be COMPLETELY FAITHFUL. Communicate your desire for a life-long commitment to your boo on a regular (and I don't mean try to persuade or convince them of anything because if you're not doing anything wrong, there's no need for that). Just let them know how you feel...but if the feelings aren't mutual, or they aren't returned in the future then you have some decisions to make (of course I say end it, but hey that's just me).
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It's easier for someone to love and appreciate you at your best once they've experienced you at your worst

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Change Comes With Action

While talking 2 my sister one day, we came to a conclusion that most women experience the same
problem at some point in their relationship....trying to get their man to understand the
importance of putting in time. Maybe the fellas can give me a little insight into why it's
like pulling teeth when us women want a little QT with our man. Isn't that how we're
supposed to feel?! I mean be for real, how would you feel if your girlfriend never wanted
to spend any time with you? If that's the case you should be a little concerned. Either she
doesn't like being around you, or she found someone she likes being around more than you....
either way it's a lose-lose situation. All I'm saying is put in the time (and I don't just mean
at the beginning of the relationship) because there is always someone waiting to pick up your
slack. TRUST!

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You Talk a Good Game...Can You Back it Up?

For those of you who don't know me one of my favorite quotes is "ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS". Now most people have heard this at some point in their lives, and even if you haven't it's not that hard to figure out what it means. Basically you should SAY WHAT YOU MEAN AND MEAN WHAT YOU SAY. Now I understand that sometimes things happen that prevent you from sticking to your word, but this shouldn't be a constant occurrence. Nothing pisses me off more than when someone tells me they're going to do something over and over again, and then they never do it. Eventually people stop believing in you! I would rather someone just do something (preferably without being asked first) and not tell me than to tell me and not do it. Like I said, sometimes things come up unexpectedly. This can be solved by simply letting the person know the situation AS SOON AS YOU KNOW YOU WON'T BE ABLE TO DO WHAT YOU SAID....not 2 or 3 hours later when the person is waiting for you. No need to beat around the bush either. You wouldn't want to be the one waiting for that long, so why make others?! And for those who keep feeding their woman/man lies about changing and bettering themselves, only when your woman/man is threatening to leave or creep, then go back to doing the same thing less than 2 weeks later...THAT'S A BUNCH OF B.S. MAN UP OR MOVE ON!! Because when it's all said and done and they finally get fed up, YOU'RE GONNA BE SORRY. Don't be stupid! You know, whether you want to admit it or not, if the person you love is truly capable of changing for the better. It's up to you to accept them as they are, or leave them alone....BE TRUE TO YOURSELF, CUZ THAT'S ALL YOU HAVE IN THE END.

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Romance the Stone

So it's almost that time! The one day of the year, besides their anniversary, that women feel they deserve some form of romance (even aside from their birthday)....VALENTINE'S DAY As I've mentioned before, it seems as though these days romance is out the window. People, especially men, feel as though their too busy, too tired, or too broke to even make an effort. They expect women to understand these circumstances, except them, and move on. Well fellas that's NOT HOW IT WORKS. Most men work their asses off during the process of GETTING a woman, (opening doors, constantly calling, taking her out, basically doing anything to impress her) but they fail to realize that you have to work twice as hard to KEEP a woman and have a GOOD relationship. Just because you have been together for over three years does not mean you stop catering to your woman. Keeping the romantic aspect of a relationship up to par is sometimes what keeps couples together. Valentine's Day is the perfect opportunity to show your girl how much love you have for her. Don't get it twisted you don't have to spend a dime to give your woman a memorable evening...just PUT IN A LITTLE EFFORT (about as much as you put into playing video games). A candle light dinner, a picnic under the stars, or a walk in the park are all romantic and affordable. For those who feel like money is no issue, sending flowers, preferably roses, to the school or workplace is a sure way to get a BIG reward by the end of the night.
Now Ladies in this day and age it's not just the guys who shoud put in the effort. With all the stress he is under and the pressure he goes through, your man deserves just as much as he gives. Try planning a romantic evening for you and your man, and BE CREATIVE. Cater to him, give him a massage or whatever you think would make him happy. Just doing the simple things can make all the difference. So don't look at Valentine's as just another day...MAKE THE MOST OF IT! Use it as an opportunity to be with the one you love and try new things. Be spontaneous! I promise you if you put in the time, you'll get every bit of it back...with a little interest;)

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What's Really Good?

So I know I'm supposed to be giving the fellas some insight into the world of women, but some events in my own personal life have raised some questions that I have yet to figure out the answer to, which is very rare for me.

• Why do guys feel it is okay for them to do certain things, but when their woman does it they go bolistic? For example, some guys think it's all good to have close female friends while they are in a seriuos relationship. They even engage in some harmless flirting with their "friends", talk on the phone with them, and sometimes go out with them. This is all good, but I MEAN LET'S GET REAL! If your woman were in the same scenario how would you feel? No man alive can convince me that they would not be a little jealous, or maybe just suspicious (just like a woman would feel in that situation). It's pretty obvious that if you can't take it, then don't dish it out.
• What's up with the GUYS NIGHT OUT THING? Seriously, you would really rather spend hours playing video games and drinking with a dude, than doing ANYTHING, possibly EVERTHING;), with your girl. I get some guys may need breaks from their girl every now and then, but for those that have a little too much "guy time", especially when other men are just waiting to pick up your slack and your girl, your sexual interests may be questionable.

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