Know Your Role

It's been a minute since my last post. Long story short, I'm in a relationship now (YAY me lol). Along with a new relationship comes constant communication with your boyfriend/girlfriend, aka learning one another and figuring out likes and dislikes. One thing I wanted to clarify with my boyfriend is his opinion on gender roles. I actually conversed with a few people on the topic. Surprisingly, people don't really adopt the old school idea that  men should be the sole bread winners and women are delagated to the home and children. Maybe it's our changing times, or maybe people or finally deciding to be realistic. A relationship should be a partnership. It makes much more sense to work with your partner and pick up the slack in whichever area they may be lacking. I believe that it takes two to be financially stable in this economy, AND it also takes two (possibly more) to properly raise our children and take care of our households. I have no problem cooking and cleaning, but I will also take out the trash or mow the lawn if need be. Luckily, my amazing boyfriend agrees that there is nothing wrong with a mam performing "domestic duties" (deemed so by traditional societies). My theory is that whoever is best at a task and enjoys doing it more should do it. If I prefer putting up a shelf more than cooking (which I do), then there is no reason I should be assigned to the latter just because it's more "womanly". Basically, a relationship's roles should be based on what works for the people in that relationship. Just remember to contribute something, be considerate and know your role. ✌🏽️

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To Trust or Not to Trust

Trust is an important aspect in any relationship, but what do you do when the one you love doesn't trust you back? We've all been in the position where we don't trust, or at least have some doubts about some of the actions of, our boyfriend/girlfriend. We've wondered if they are where they say they're gonna be or seen a text from someone of the opposite sex on their phone and wondered if it was something more than just a text....but what happens when the tables are turned? What if your partner is the one questioning you, and you know you have done nothing wrong, disrespectful, or inappropriate? (and I don't mean those cheaters who are in denial)
It's essential to have trust, but for some people it just takes time. If the love you feel for that person is real and strong, then you will wait for him/her...and if he or she feels that same level of love, then trusting you will come in no time, as long as you continue to be COMPLETELY FAITHFUL. Communicate your desire for a life-long commitment to your boo on a regular (and I don't mean try to persuade or convince them of anything because if you're not doing anything wrong, there's no need for that). Just let them know how you feel...but if the feelings aren't mutual, or they aren't returned in the future then you have some decisions to make (of course I say end it, but hey that's just me).
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